Ask yourself – Stuck in the past ?


I have some interesting friends, who happen to experience some vivid incidents in life and they teach me a lot. I have this one friend, who doesn’t want to get married because of a breakup in the past and she is stuck to that moment in for lifetime. I am sure, you might have lot of such friends or you might be one yourself. I would like you to take some time and think about it. Why is that break up so hard to move on. Moving on not necessarily mean you have forgotten the past and you don’t consider it to be beautiful. Moving on is essential for living. When something has end like forever and you are sure there is nothing you can do about it, then you must surely look at exploring your life and embracing all good that is coming to your life.

But then she might say, there is not quite much happening in life and nothing exciting at all. I ask her and you, to consider this fact and think on this. Are you sure, that no good is happening because it is not happening or the reason is you ? Have you hold on all corners so tightly that nothing essentially ever happens. Are you sure, you are not the reason for a static life ! Do reconsider. At times, she says yes. I do not dwell any further in messing with thoughts and belief of my friends, so I let them decide what is good for them.

There are quite a number of interesting persons in my life who drive my thoughts and make me think about some acute things in life, which are missed by a lot of us. I started to think, whether they should be thinking the way they are. They seem to go along well and in the end everything turns out for good, isn’t it ? May be I am just stupid, to think wide and far about things in life. This is the way it is. But surely I would always ask anyone who has decided to do something in life out of some experience in past. Are you sure, you are not clouded by your experience in past, making a decision out of a filter ? You see, it is us who guide the course of our journey. It is some small decisions and beliefs we have, that drive us and make us who we are.

Next time when you feel, the whole world is coming down on you, because you are very nice and simple person, I would like you to reconsider the facts. Think about what is that you want, what is  that is happening and what is that you are stopping from happening. Never let anything that has made you sad, guide a decision you make. Never make an experience your weakness. Never let a person in your life, decide the course of your journey. Whoever it is, whether that person is whom you love a lot out of proportions or it is the person who has given you sadness forever and you hate him like anything. Be yourself, you know it from a lot of quotes. Now you know what they meant, be yourself, in every situation you are put through and go through. We live through good moments and learn through not so good moments.

Everything that happens with us has a purpose, we learn during the next set of journey. But if you do not let it happen, it would never. If you do not step into the next step, you would never realize what has life got you for. Someone might be a reason for a breakage, make sure you are not the person responsible for your demise. Look around, there is always someone who wants to care for you, your family, your friend or your silent lover. You might be hurt by one person, that doesn’t mean you never let someone else closure to you. May be yes this time you need to be cautious, more careful, but let things happens. Do not hold on to things very tightly.

To the most amazing friends out there. To the most simplest person out there. To the most caring girl out there. I have only one question for you. Ask yourself, why you are the way you are and are you sure, you are not the reason why things are not moving in your life. Are you not stopping yourself from being happy. May good times, flow into your life like a never ending river and you live the life you were destined to live. Sometimes, you are destined to change your believes and change your attitude. Just don’t be so good, that you hurt yourself forever.

Let me know what you think about this post and do you see anyone around you who is so. Thank you for reading.

10 thoughts on “Ask yourself – Stuck in the past ?

  1. Bhanu, my friend, this is super awesome 🙂 Loved many things and almost everything regarding this post. But, the idea behind it is cool. You won’t believe, today morning I just wrote some sentences based on this same context, from a different angle. Will try to complete and post it soon. But, your post gave me some nice ideas to move forward 🙂


  2. Its beautiful read.. Those who have undergone through such breakage of trusting can only see but’s in many lines.. They may b ready to live for or with another.. Here comes the but… But the way her ( am considering it as her) beliefs and dreams have shattered wouldn’t b gained back. She will put question in every trustful words or person.. Moving on is not possible in this state. And as all says time has its healing powers.. But the wound will leave its mark for sure.. 😏

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    • Yes it’s fine to be cautious and questioning that not necessarily mean avoiding to accept and agree. You see if one meets a person who can heal all the wounds, why not give a chance. Typically they don’t want to, that’s not fair. Having a mark and stuck on that Mark forever is different. Eventually I see new person can only over write all the notes if she lets and chooses to experience the new.

      Thanks for sharing your inputs.


      • “Typically they don’t want to” … Yea.. That’s true..
        Do the new one stand the questionings’ 😊? If he stands then sure he can heal her wound …

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  3. Its an amazing one.. Wonderfull lines
    1) Do not hold on to things very tightly. Let it go.. Life has too go on..
    2) Everything that happens with us has a purpose..
    3) Don’t take ur experience as ur weakness..

    Article is Supportive guiding, and Motivational…..


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