True Friendship – Blissful

Whether you are on top of hill or near a lakeside

Whether it’s morning or noon

Whether you are hungry or stomach full

Whether it’s highway or mudway

Whether you are on pillion seat or on driver seat

Whether you are tired or excited

Whether there bumps in the way or a smooth road

Whether you are fresh or dull

When you don’t have any good pics of the trip

When you don’t get to see any great place

When nothing of the above matters but you know you have had a good time

When you have someone who pushes you to take one more step

It’s blissful to have someone in your life with whom it doesn’t matter where you are, how you are, what you are doing – only the company matters.

To True Friendship

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Dussehra – Jammi Chettu

There are many folk lores and mythology stories connected to Dussehra celebrations. One of them is associated with offering prayers at ‘Jammi Chettu’, known as Sami tree (Prosopis spicegera).

This legend is related to Mahabharata.

The legend has it that the Pandavas had hidden their weapons on top of the tree to hoodwink Kauravas and evade another spell of stay in the forests.

They offered worship to their weapons by bringing them down from the tree top, on the auspicious Vijayadasami day, before leading a battle against Kauravas.

The reference to the sacred tree aspect has been made in the Mahabharata Book VIII: Karna Parva, Chapter 30, verse 24.

In olden days, kings used to perform pujas to their weapons and chariots under this tree.

Why marriages are difficult

He : Hi, where are you?
She : I am at my parents home.
He : What happened ? Why you went there ?
She : I am fed up now. I cannot take it any more. I am going to be at my parents place for a while. I will come back later.

This is a small conversation between a recently married couple. It’s been 6 months since their marriage and situation is getting bitter every day for the girl.

Here is some background.

Boy

He is studious, dedicated and oriented towards life. He has never been involved with girls. He was raised almost as a single child as his elder sister was married, when he was very young. He got job and got married when he was 28. When he was looking for a girl in arrange marriage, he was also looking for that spark and hope in girl who would be jovial and happy going in life. He got one and he got married to her. She was 22.

Girl

She has been brought up her parents very lovingly and caringly as all parents do. They would never say anything to her. She completed her graduation and was pursuing bachelors in law. She found the guy to be decent and educated, with some content. She had hope that things would be beautiful ahead. She was very caring and aligned to his husband’s wishes.

Boy’s Mother

She is timid. She is the usual 1960’s parents for whom the child is always child, even if they have a kids. She would always instruct him to study, even when he was doing his Master’s in Technology. He was a lecturer in college, yet for her he was yet to grow. He never lived out of his city, neither did his parents. Their whole life has been in the same city and around similar people

Together

When they all were living together, the mother as usual would try to instruct them in every little thing in life from food, habits, sleep, cleanliness, timings, events, traditions, rituals and so on. She wants to care for them, but it feels like a bondage. The girl, cooks for them and tries to nurture, but when she gets to hear something from her in laws she feels sad. This goes on. The guy tries to console her, explain her and make her understand. Sometimes she understands, sometimes she feels just sad. Slowly she doesn’t tell him much.

Sometimes things get heated up and the argument goes haywire. All this was creating bitterness in her and she continued to feel upset. Hence she left to take a break. She went to her parents, where she felt alive and free.

What went wrong!

This is usual in middle-class families in India. This happens because the framework of life is different for 2 families. Their habits, attitude and outlook are different. The framework of mother was completely orthodox and living in a different age with different mindset then the present age. He wanted a progressive life and he wanted to live a modern lifestyle with open mindset, so he chose such a girl. But he couldn’t balance it. Because human heart is fragile and far more so is the woman’s heart.