You don’t see the complete picture!

Observation is the basic skill we acquire during childhood.

Interpretation is what we learn over time.

Conclusion is what we gain with acquaintance and by learning about the world and people.

But do we learn well ?

Are we lacking something in one of our basic skills ?

Here we go !

One of my friend says – He is surprised by the coincidence and the repetition of the coincidence that he now believes, that whenever his roommate sits down to eat, he gets a call on his mobile from his fiancee. How sweet !๐Ÿ˜„

As per him, everytime when they are having breakfast or dinner or for that matter having some snacks during an odd hour on a weekend or grabbing a sweet, there goes the ring on his roommates phone.

Now he says that his fiancee loves him so much that everytime she calls on such times. How lovely !๐Ÿ’– Sure indeed she might love him very much.

But he is missing a point here.

The number of times his roommate gets a call from his fiancee. The number of hours they are on call or calling each other. The number of times he is not with his roommate when she calls him. The number of times they are not talking to each other. The number of times he has food with his roommate. The timings when he has food.

The simple equation that they both talk to each other everytime during the same hours. Everytime she is just thinking about him and she calls him every once in a while she is free. His daily schedule that she is aware of and the free hours he can talk with her after office, coincides with the dinner times or before office hours.

Also the fact that he and his roommate prefer to eat together!

You see the observation is looking at some event in a particular fashion and arriving to a conclusion that it is a fact!

The interesting thing and something that should help to arrive to a conclusion is when – someone calls on an odd hour on an odd day after many weeks and gets bumped into finding the other person having food every single time ! Now that’s coincidence! May be love!

Serendipity is an underrated topic.

Affection is ignored when it is not seeked.

You observe. You validate. You cross-question. You affirm. You arrive to a conclusion. You then be free to allow yourself to reiterate the entire process and be open enough to arrive at an entirely new conclusion.

May your senses guide you!

Best friends for life

Throughout adulthood, it is easy to lose touch with old friends and it can be hard to develop new friendships. The digital age has complicated this process as well by changing the way friends interact. As phone calls have been exchanged byย text messages and social media has replaced the need for face-to-face interaction, gatherings with friends often become fewer and farther between.

But there is growing evidence that genuine friendships may be very important in terms of your personal and professional life. Even as an adult, friends can have a big influence over how you feel, think and behave. Friends are likely to come and go throughout the seasons of your life. Job changes, moving to a new city, and becoming a parent are among the many things that may shift the friendships in your life. The demands of life and a busy career can move friends to the bottom of the priority list at times.

It may be wise however, to re-evaluate the role friends play in your life. If spending quality time with friends isnโ€™t high on your to-do list, it may make sense to schedule a get-together sooner rather than later. After all, friends impact not just the quality of your life, but perhaps even the length of it.

You see we all have ups and downs. Life is like a sine wave. Our friends are also sine waves, funny isn’t it. Alright, so I have 2 friends (stupid, funny, irritating, idiotic, very smart, ethical, you name it and they have it ๐Ÿ˜› ), who are really my counterparts in terms of emotional and fundamental thinking. So there is a day when I have to make one very important decision of life, one of them is there just to get my head clear. Below picture clears how the total sum of each of us is always greater and helps us be cool ๐Ÿ™‚

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Best Friends for Life – Mood Swings

If you observe carefully, each of us have a up and down cycle. But when we are together, at any point of time, there wouldn’t be a situation or event, that can make us down at the same. We have our limitations, troubles in life, but when we discuss everything seems to be possible. We fight, we hurt, we torture each other, but that is all just fun. We do not judge, we do not discourage, we do not take for granted, we care and more important of the all we evolve and grow together. We do not have the slightest amount of grudge or hatred. We might be angry for one another, but we never, never ever fall apart. We are stupid, we are smart. We talk quantum physics, we talk Doraemon, we go on tour and we support each other. Life is so cool, when we are around. We fall in love with someone when one of us approves and when love falls apart, one of us is there to ensure life still goes on in the right direction. The waveform completely summarizes what friends are and how things can be so cool.

You see, 2 friends are enough for a life time ๐Ÿ™‚ Thank you for reading. Think who are your life time friends. You might have more than two then you are lucky. If you do not have one, then it might be time you make one. In the end, have some friends for life time. To the Friends. Cheers.

2 Blame It On Me Stories

Story 1 – (Love Enforced)

I have a friend, who very hardworking and is occupied in work all the year round, auditing some of the Industry giants of the country. He works his butt off for 14-16 hours and sometimes he is on no sleep mode. He was not like this always. I know him from college and since then we are inseparable. After college, though there was a time, when he chose to be away or may be he didn’t have time, because he was involved with his colleague at work. He didn’t quite know what his feelings were, but he was certainly interested in her.

So on, one not so fine night, he calls me up and tells me his bike is punctured and he is dragging his bike for a km ahead. And he tells me a lot of things about her, based on which I tell him to call her and talk with her. I kind of push him, as he says now. He talks of moon and her face in the glow. Somewhat poetic and romantic lines. Later what happens is they get very close, however it turns sadly after an year or so. (Check here – the Confused One)

He says it was all my fault to start it in the first place. So I accept it and say – Blame it on me !

Story 2 – (Alcohol Addiction)

I used to stay with my friends in our rented apartment, which was more like a second family to me, since we used to cook together, eat like a family and take care of each other. This continued for an year or so and then some of us had to split up and new guys came in. Everything continued, however there was this one guy, who wanted to stay with people of our kind, no drinks, no smoking. Well he gelled in well. He was pretty some coder when he joined the company, but it was an year or so and nothing eventful was happening in his life, personal or professional.

I used to work in noon-shifts during those days and he too. So we would meet for dinner daily and discuss for sometime. I used to motivate him to bring some change in his life and push him beyond limit (as he says now). Then he got along with some of his colleagues at work, who happened to be lot of party time boys. He gelled with them well and eventually started going to parties (alcohol parties mostly). Today he is a big time drinking alcohol most of the time (not an addict exactly, but yes, compared to what he was and what he drinks like now, there is a huge change) He used to go to church every Sunday and sing prayers. If you ask me, I don’t remember the last time he went to church in 2 years.

He says it was all my fault to push him for change in the first place. So I accept it and say – Blame it on me !