Why marriages are difficult

He : Hi, where are you?
She : I am at my parents home.
He : What happened ? Why you went there ?
She : I am fed up now. I cannot take it any more. I am going to be at my parents place for a while. I will come back later.

This is a small conversation between a recently married couple. It’s been 6 months since their marriage and situation is getting bitter every day for the girl.

Here is some background.

Boy

He is studious, dedicated and oriented towards life. He has never been involved with girls. He was raised almost as a single child as his elder sister was married, when he was very young. He got job and got married when he was 28. When he was looking for a girl in arrange marriage, he was also looking for that spark and hope in girl who would be jovial and happy going in life. He got one and he got married to her. She was 22.

Girl

She has been brought up her parents very lovingly and caringly as all parents do. They would never say anything to her. She completed her graduation and was pursuing bachelors in law. She found the guy to be decent and educated, with some content. She had hope that things would be beautiful ahead. She was very caring and aligned to his husband’s wishes.

Boy’s Mother

She is timid. She is the usual 1960’s parents for whom the child is always child, even if they have a kids. She would always instruct him to study, even when he was doing his Master’s in Technology. He was a lecturer in college, yet for her he was yet to grow. He never lived out of his city, neither did his parents. Their whole life has been in the same city and around similar people

Together

When they all were living together, the mother as usual would try to instruct them in every little thing in life from food, habits, sleep, cleanliness, timings, events, traditions, rituals and so on. She wants to care for them, but it feels like a bondage. The girl, cooks for them and tries to nurture, but when she gets to hear something from her in laws she feels sad. This goes on. The guy tries to console her, explain her and make her understand. Sometimes she understands, sometimes she feels just sad. Slowly she doesn’t tell him much.

Sometimes things get heated up and the argument goes haywire. All this was creating bitterness in her and she continued to feel upset. Hence she left to take a break. She went to her parents, where she felt alive and free.

What went wrong!

This is usual in middle-class families in India. This happens because the framework of life is different for 2 families. Their habits, attitude and outlook are different. The framework of mother was completely orthodox and living in a different age with different mindset then the present age. He wanted a progressive life and he wanted to live a modern lifestyle with open mindset, so he chose such a girl. But he couldn’t balance it. Because human heart is fragile and far more so is the woman’s heart.

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Quotes

​We all have 😈demon😈 inside of us and
we are in constant battle with the 👿demon👿.

What you 👓see in mirror🖼️ determines
what you see in the people you love the most,
if you see a 👾demon👾 in them then
probably you will see a 👻demon👻 in you.

If you have faith in your 💝love💝
and
if you believe that you are true to your feelings
and
you are making a right choice
and
you want it to the extent that you need it
then
I don’t think there is anything
that
can stop you from getting that 💘love💘

There comes a point in every relationship where 💔breaking💔 away seems to be the best and easy option but whoever lives through it, experiences the best 💓feeling💓 of life.

Some of the amazing moments in life are often unplanned.

It’s not an obligation to give up something you 💗love💗 the most – given you have enough faith and strength and substance in your 💖love💖.

When rage takes over your pain, it becomes the reason for your happiness.

In adversity your true character 🎆shines🎆 out.

Often in times of adversity, the 🌞light🌞 within you 🌚fades🌚 off.

A lot of things in life are meaningless and often we 🏃run🏃behind things that are meaningless and short lived.

Once your ♥️heart♥️ is touched by an 👼angel👼, there is nothing much a 👹devil😈 can do to disturb you.

All the goodness you project in parts will reflect back in full.

 


This post is a part of Quote series containing the lessons of life, motivational, inspirational statements I have written from time to time in my life.

Quotes – May 2017

We often hate the people we ❤️love ❤️ the most.

The people we hate the most are the once we 💓loved💓

Love is when you understand what she 👸wants and give it before she🙋 even asks.

We often fail to acknowledge the small things in life.

And often in masses we fail to recognise the special people.

A lot of bad people make it evident for a little good to exist and even when good exist only a very few believe it.

When in deep pain
We remember the person
Who made us feel special
And realize that
What we had to offer them
was just pain

Where 💖 true feelings 💖 exist there is no place for jealousy.

When jealousy enters a relationship there is a crack 💔 in it.

Trust is built from what you are, if you feel insecure about your partner then you must see what’s within.



This post is a part of Quote series containing the lessons of life, motivational, inspirational statements I have written from time to time in my life.