Things they don’t tell about marriages (India)

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Things they don’t tell about marriages, especially in a country like India, where marriages are a big deal of time, pomp, custom and gathering. They might tell you, but you might be in a different mode of life altogether so it just slips by. Here are few things that particularly happens in a marriage setup like in India. You must read – Mutual Funds are subject to market risk, please read the document carefully before investing.

Thus is the case with marriage, you must think before making a life time commitment. Here are few glimpses :

Life is not same anymore !

Your food habits and timings, now entirely depend on a new family(if you are a girl) and you ought to arrange yourself to the lifestyle of your in-laws. You have to remember to inform your spouse about your whereabouts and missing the food at home, in case of any(if you are a boy).

In a normal arranged marriage, the girl goes to live with the boy’s family (which eventually becomes her own) which sometimes is a joint family with around 20+ members under the same roof. In such marriage, life is eventful if you look at it one way, the cheerful way. However if you are going through one such life, then you would say, at least in the first couple of years, it’s stressful, upaetting, frustrating and tiring. You might cry under a pillow some nights. It’s the fight of the authorities. It’s about being right and choosing not to be quite. It’s about letting someone know they are being unnecessarily strict and dominating.

It’s about living in a world where you cannot hurt someone, you shouldn’t hurt someone and at the same time you choose not to get hurt yourself.

If you are a man, you are grinding in between the world of your Mom and your wife. You have to choose sides. For every event that happens, you need to find a way that makes each party happy. You have to console each one. You have to make sure you don’t hurt any. You are under the classic dilemma of choosing the left eye or right eye. You want both of them and you want both of them together, but given the conditions of life and thought processes, they tend to go against each other in many of the life views and decisions.

You cannot spend without being considerate. You cannot do something that you have been doing all your life, because that’s not what a married man does. You have a lady who doesn’t like it.

You were having a great time at your home and now that you move to your new home, you have to make sure you lock all the doors at night. You have to check the milk is at the door early morning. You need to check if there are any to be spoiled items in the refrigerator. You were sleeping until late, when your Mom would serve your special coffee on your table beside the bed. Now you have to get up before the world is up and keep the hot coffee ready to be served.

It might seem too much to take at first and it might seem a huge task before you even start. But there is always something going on amidst all the hurdles and hustles of life. You know you have someone to look after and that someone will look after you.

It is all in your attitude to get the best of life and so with the marriage. You need to be accepting people the way they are. You must accept your mother in-law as your own mother. You must accept your daughter in-law as your own daughter. You must know life has changed with time and now is the time when women work tirelessly at job, so she might not be able to cook daily at home. You must also understand that you may have learnt to build skyscrapers but your world is your family and that family has a old lady who has worked all her life to give you the man, you consider to be the best in world. Respect her and love her for such a beautiful gift. When times are right laugh loud together and when times are tough, shred your tears together. You have her shoulder and she has yours. You both have his shoulder, who never wants to see you both cry. What is marriage afterall if not about being together.

Quotes – 6

Everytime you see me with your eyes unfiltered and unbiased you fill find an amazing person who is just like you!

Pass on a smile a day to another human and see what the smile does. Let’s rewire the way we function n see if we can make any difference. 🙂

Be a calm person and let the universe take it course.

The only harm you can ever do is not harm anyone else. Beauty of being a beautiful person at heart.

The answers are all right before you, you just have to look with an open mind and they will come to you. You need to accept and embrace them.

Quotes – Part 5

Reality is always simpler than your imagination, but most of the times we get stuck in our imaginative world. We start to live in imagination more than real world.

Know thyself and then embrace the world. It will all make sense.

If you are frustrated most of the time, then there is something wrong with the way you deal with stuff in your life. Start introspecting!

Time is a very valuable essence. Do not disvalue it! You might have to regret it the most.

You cannot know the truth about something that happened in an era before your time, unless you get a time-machine to travel back in time. You can only make a closer approximation to the truth.

There are days when you are pink
There are days when you are blue
There are days when you are green
While other days you are red
But for all those colorful days
you are who you are!
You are a rainbow with multiple colors.


This post is a part of Quote series containing the lessons of life, motivational, inspirational statements I have written from time to time in my life.