She wants him, but does he ?

She calls her friend to tell about the recent on/offs in her life. She has been talking to a guy lately and she likes him a lot. They met at a matrimonial site and happen to visit at a meeting with parents. It all went fine but the guys mother didn’t like the girl. So they decided to call it off. However for whatever reason, the boy was in touch with her and they happened to have lot of talks. They met few times.

He had spoken to his mother a lot of times, however she never agreed. She didn’t like the looks of the girl. For quite some times things were grey and eventually their discussions were cut short. They were not talking anymore. The girl was sad and confused. She wanted him. She liked him very much but his Mom was never to approve.

She was looking for other guys on her parents orders but she never liked any. She was always looking for him in every guy she met. As she was not talking to him much, it made her sad and weak. She knew it was not working and there was nothing that made her feel hopeful. She decided to tone down her emotions for him. She started to go along in her life and think less about him. She decided to move on or make an attempt to move on.

And then after few weeks, he calls her and they talk. Every time she talks with him, she knows that she is the weak one. She wants him in her life. He made her feel special. He told her that he was making an attempt to convince his mother and meanwhile if she found someone else, she was free to choose so.

The only question that kept her awake all night was –

Should she wait for him or stick to her decision of moving on and forgetting him from her life?

Please share your thoughts in the comments.

The dynamics of City Life

If you are staying away from home – this one is for you.

You miss your home. You miss your Mom. You miss your family. More importantly you miss yourself.

Everyone is different. Each one has their own experience. But this is for the migratory birds.

If you were born in town or village and you have been brought up in a different shade of life. You had your discipline and your beliefs.

Everything you knew, here on goes into the gutter.

If you don’t like to smoke – then you are missing out on all the fun.

If you don’t like to drink – then you are missing out on all the fun.

If you don’t have a relationship – then you are missing out on all the fun.

If you are not doing something you have never done – then you are missing out on all the fun.

You got to have fun, even if it means that you do something you didn’t want to do in the first place.

Fair amount of girls and boys in the modern Indian, live away from home for study and job. They live among people from around the country who carry different notions and thoughts about life.

If a group of boys stay in a flat, then every weekend it must be about having alcohol or watching obscene movies.

If a group of girls stay in a flat, then every weekend it must be about shopping or partying or meeting boyfriend.

If you are none of the above, then you are the most boring person on earth !

If your roommates, go meet their boyfriends or if their boyfriends come home to meet and they enjoy, what are you supposed to do ?

The curious case of many young people nowadays is to fit in the status quo! Even if you don’t understand or like the TV series, you need to watch it, because a lot of them watch it.

It’s become a life driven by the choices and demands of other where you don’t have a unique and strong stand for your own choices and beliefs. You have to face at every walk of life, for your food choices, fashion, thought process, you likes and dislikes about every single thing from movies, music, sports to food and so on is driven by the trend and the status quo.

If you don’t walk along or beside, you will be crushed. You will live a life of confusion and suffering.

To liberate yourself from all the sufferings you must know thyself well. You must love yourself for who you are. You must strengthen your skills and invoke a sense of achievement and honor in yourself and your actions. You must develop rituals.

By performing actions based your choices and performing them well, you will gain confidence in who you are and love yourself for what you are, by which you can face the challenges of life and the trend, so you can set a foot in the shore and make a mark. You leave your footprints for others to follow. You create an impact that lasts. You stop existing and start living.

To Life.

You don’t see the complete picture!

Observation is the basic skill we acquire during childhood.

Interpretation is what we learn over time.

Conclusion is what we gain with acquaintance and by learning about the world and people.

But do we learn well ?

Are we lacking something in one of our basic skills ?

Here we go !

One of my friend says – He is surprised by the coincidence and the repetition of the coincidence that he now believes, that whenever his roommate sits down to eat, he gets a call on his mobile from his fiancee. How sweet !😄

As per him, everytime when they are having breakfast or dinner or for that matter having some snacks during an odd hour on a weekend or grabbing a sweet, there goes the ring on his roommates phone.

Now he says that his fiancee loves him so much that everytime she calls on such times. How lovely !💖 Sure indeed she might love him very much.

But he is missing a point here.

The number of times his roommate gets a call from his fiancee. The number of hours they are on call or calling each other. The number of times he is not with his roommate when she calls him. The number of times they are not talking to each other. The number of times he has food with his roommate. The timings when he has food.

The simple equation that they both talk to each other everytime during the same hours. Everytime she is just thinking about him and she calls him every once in a while she is free. His daily schedule that she is aware of and the free hours he can talk with her after office, coincides with the dinner times or before office hours.

Also the fact that he and his roommate prefer to eat together!

You see the observation is looking at some event in a particular fashion and arriving to a conclusion that it is a fact!

The interesting thing and something that should help to arrive to a conclusion is when – someone calls on an odd hour on an odd day after many weeks and gets bumped into finding the other person having food every single time ! Now that’s coincidence! May be love!

Serendipity is an underrated topic.

Affection is ignored when it is not seeked.

You observe. You validate. You cross-question. You affirm. You arrive to a conclusion. You then be free to allow yourself to reiterate the entire process and be open enough to arrive at an entirely new conclusion.

May your senses guide you!