How to deal with mean and negative feedback !

Most of the times it’s those who criticize you are the ones responsible for your growth.

If you observe carefully, then the people who support you in everything you say and carry the same thoughts as you, are not responsible for any exponential growth. They are responsible for considerable and consistent growth, but gradual and linear at the same time. As much as there is a need of few people who remind of your true self and your ideologies, you need as many people, if not more, who give constructive or negative criticism about you and your work.

Once in a while you will find someone walking out of the blue and saying very mean things to you. They might not be true, yet those words are spoken in the worst way to hurt you. You make an effort sometimes to make the person understand while the other times you let go of such mean experiences. Whether or not you tackled it right at that moment, those words stay with you for long. Those words hurt you, but at the same you contemplate over the things said and make your intent as well as your delivery stronger than ever. Your performance leaps ten folds, with the aggression and the efforts you carry. You make consistent efforts and increase your persistent and quality. Then you reach to a point of success.

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You look back from the place you stand and all you see is people who made you feel special in the moments of your low and the only people who spoke of mean words and negative things to you.

Hence when some body approaches with mean weapons of words in their hand, make sure to keep your sword ready, not to cut them but to sharpen your sword.

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60 Days of Love

60 Days of Love : Situation 2

So the previous post was a sad ending, though true in many cases. Now let us take a different situation.

Situation 2 : Boy and Girl are together for study or job, for about a year. They have been good friends. Gradually feelings grow between them. One fine day, boy decides to propose girl (Yeah, Boy again). He plans for a nice dinner and lot of romantic setup. Girl is totally mesmerized and she agrees to the love proposal. Saga begins, they meet daily, go for movies, hang out together, have trips and it is a wonderful time together. After couple of years, a change happens, either college is over or a new job. Both decide to pursue the next part of life together and the Saga continues.

Day comes, when they decide that this is going to continue for the rest of life and they will be marrying each other. Boy tells at home, Girl tells at home. One of the family agrees, say the Boy family does. Girl’s family doesn’t quite agree. I will leave it up to your own imagination for the reasons of saying no. Then the girl tries to convince the family, fights with them. Days go on. Slowly and eventually things fall along. Both families meet. They work it out. Happily Married Ever After.

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Quite similar to the 2 States movie, oh yeah. But let me tell you this is more of a story of 1 in 10 nowadays in major cities across India, who are in relationship ! So yeah, situation 2 is sweet, bumps in the middle but ends well.

This are the concrete kind of people who pursue their dreams and wishes. They try to accomplish what they want and are willing to pay the price. Emotions are not too strong nor very light. They are of the appropriate nature to feel the romance around and not to upset the expectations. This creates a harmony in their life and people around them. It is rare for stories to fall along the above situation, but I have seen and seeing more of the success stories around the above line.

Loving is a great feeling. Fighting for your love with your love to get your love forever along with the people who matter for you, is the challenge imposed on the new generation and those who are successful in accomplishing all of the above are my inspiration. This are people with guts. Salute to the kind. Waiting for more success stories.

Until the more stories come up and different kinds of situations are evaluated. Take care.

The Legend of Arjun

Arjun, the king of Hastinapur and Indraprasth, was a very skillful warrior. He was the son of Pandu and Kunti, born from the divine mantra given to Kunti by a Sage. Kunti calls upon Indra, the God of gods and the result of them is Arjun. Arjun is trained along with his brothers, by Drona, the most skillful teacher. Arjun excels in all weapons of the war, but he was highly skillful in Archery. He was man of talent. As the story goes he could pierce the eye of fish, rotating on a wheel, by looking in the oil placed in a big bowl. This was a test for winning the hand of Draupadi, the daughter of Drupad. He goes on to become one of the greatest king and warrior in the battled field of Kurukshetra and kills all his rivals in the war, who were his own brothers, teachers, relatives and his own clan. He gets aid from Krishna, the king of Dwarka, the avatar of Lord Vishnu. Krishna preaches him the essence of Life and explains him the duty of life. He tells him the Bhagwad Gita. Arjun then is successful in defeating the opponents and claiming the right on Hastinapur along with his brothers, the Pandavas.

What is more to this ? Well, was Arjun was even great as he is showcased as ? Was he even the greatest archer of his time ? Did he just got lucky to be born with golden spoon and surrounded by people with wisdom, intent and purpose in every walk of life ? What would have happened of Arjun, without Dron or Krishna ? Is Arjun, something on his own, if so is he so legendary as the story goes, on his own ?

Well, I have two good contenders against him, in the field of archery to be specific. First of them is Eklavya. Eklavya is a tribal boy who learns the art of archery by himself. He places the idol of Guru Drona and using his concentration, determination and will power, achieves to learn everything about archery and excel at it. If we speculate in the very systematic way, it might happen in some cases, he might have listened to all the teachings from the top of a tree or secretly hiding in bushes. Whatever the way he acquired the skills, he didn’t have any formal teaching nor any particular background. When the Pandavas, come to know of such a skillful archer and when Arjun questions Eklavya, sadly, how he acquired the skills, he comes to know of Drona being his teacher. When taken to Drona, he disagrees and comes to know of how Eklavya, learnt by self. Drona, was a wise man, a man of virtue, but he wanted to see his student, Arjun to be the best at archery.

What Drona did next is something I would like to speculate over and over again and every time I would land into different possibility of why Drona did so ? He asks Eklavya to cut his thumb and provide him as a Gurudakshina. Eklavya, does so without a thought and provides Drona with his thumb. Hence, without thumb, Eklavya could never use a bow and his chapter in the history of Archery and Mahabharata is over. In the books of Moral, it is showcased this story as Eklavya, was without a Guru and it is said that knowledge without Guru, is blind. But I would like to think it is otherwise. It is not about the knowledge or skill being blind. It was the determination and the ability of Eklavya that strikes me more and that provokes me to think of it. Was the world condemned to make Arjun the great ? Is it the story tellers, who mixed the stories and modified it ? Were Drona and Krishna, men with higher ability, aware of consequences of everything and they decide to take some steps, that are not of understanding to a common man ?

I would always been revisiting this chapter of history or mythology, whatever you call it, to know what is it in the realm of this story, that one should take and make out of ? I want to know what is your view on the story and legend who never became one – Eklavya.

The second contender in the next post.